If you've ever felt like you can't do it because "she has more advantages," this is for you.
We are our own worst judges. We compare ourselves, we convince ourselves that the other person has better opportunities, that luck isn't on our side, that everything in our life has been more difficult than hers. (That's what I thought several years ago; I'll tell you why later.)
The thing is... That thought was the biggest barrier between who I was and what I wanted to achieve.
We live in a society that, in one way or another, has taught us to doubt our potential. From a young age, we absorb the idea that there are paths that are not for us, that we have invisible limits that we must respect.
If someone around us achieves something big, instead of seeing it as proof that it's possible for us too, we use it as confirmation that we're at a disadvantage.
"She's luckier," "she has more support," "she had a better education," "she doesn't have the responsibilities I have." And so we justify our paralysis.
The problem with these beliefs is that they become our reality. If we constantly tell ourselves that the other person has more opportunities than we do, we stop seeing the opportunities that are right in front of us.
We limit ourselves without realizing it, we stop ourselves before even trying. And the worst part is that often it's not even society that stops us, it's us and our own thoughts.
What if, instead of focusing on comparison, we focused on inspiration ? What if, instead of saying "she can do it because she has more opportunities ," we started saying "if she can do it, so can I" ?
What we admire in other women isn't unattainable for us. Discipline , perseverance, and courage are qualities we can develop. But if we convince ourselves we're at a disadvantage before we even begin, we'll never take the first step.
It's true that each one has its own story, its own circumstances, and its own challenges. But none of these reasons are sufficient to condemn us to inaction .
If you've ever felt like you can't do it because "she's more capable ," stop. Ask yourself if that's really true or if it's just a convenient excuse to stay in your comfort zone .
We are capable of more than we think, but first we have to start by stopping putting imaginary barriers on ourselves .
It's not about ignoring difficulties, but rather about stopping using them as reasons to remain stuck . There's a big difference between recognizing an obstacle and turning it into an insurmountable wall .
The question is: do you want to keep convincing yourself that you can't, or do you want to start looking for ways to make it possible?
Choose to see yourself as a capable woman. Because you are.
